Dirty Little Secret
One of my first clients at the new studio was a friend who has gotten quite a few genital piercings from me. She initially came in asking for a nipple piercing and I didn’t think they would likely heal. She asked if I had any suggestions. Knowing her relatively well, (I’m good at getting to know people- their likes/dislikes, and personality types), I suggested a labia piercing. She later told me how much she loved it and how it made things better. I knew her well enough to know that if she felt a little sexier she would like it. Labia piercings are primarily aesthetic and don’t do much other than make a person more aware of that part of their body. One person said to me after showing me his lorum piercing that someone asked why he got the base of his penis pierced. His reply, “How often do you think about the base of your cock? I think about mine all the time!” That’s the best illustration of why someone would get a genital piercing, aside from the extra sensation.
This is what I knew she’d get out of it and I knew she’d love that. She also got her self slightly worked up over each piercing I’d perform. One thing I focus on and am pretty good at is calming a person down and getting them relaxed, which is very rewarding for me to be able to help a person get through.
After she got her piercing at our new studio, she sat and we chatted about the experience and she was telling me how she liked getting genital piercings. She can’t really go for a tackle-box face look because of her career, but she could have all the genital piercings she wanted and no one had to know. It was her “Dirty Little Secret,” as she put it.
As many of you who know me well, I love genital piercings. Not just because I’m a perv, but I love the intensity of them. I think they require a lot of trust and a good connection between client and piercer. I’ve also been studying the anatomy of genitalia since I was in 5th grade. My mother was going to nursing school when I was growing up, so I would read her medical books. As a curious boy, I naturally started studying genitalia. By 6th grade I new more about female anatomy than most of the girls who were just starting to get their periods. A few of them would come to me with questions through high school when they were worried and even still. I think part of the difference with me is that I don’t see it much different than an ear, in terms of anatomy. As I say to people, there is nothing gross about the human body, it does what it’s suppose to do, and that’s a beautiful thing.
A majority of my piercings are genital, so it only makes sense that I would also do a lot of them as well. One nice thing about having had almost every genital piercing done is that I can give good guidance and advice about them. If someone comes in for an apadravya I can explain everything they can expect in terms of healing and such. I can also empathize more because I know the fear/ anticipation of receiving the piercing. I can also appreciate the excitement and rush from getting it done. But, not just the apadravya, but also frenums, hafadas, guiche, dydoe, lorum, and genital beads (pearling).
A lot of people have misunderstandings of what to expect. I had one client come in and say she had to use the bathroom first to put a tampon in. Initially I was like, okay it’s over there. Then she said, “Don’t I need to put one in before we do this [hood piercing]?” I said, only if you’re having your period. Someone had told her that girls needed a tampon in or else they would “squirt.” I replied no, no, no. That generally doesn’t happen and then explained the proceedure and told her how most people generally respond. This calmed her down. She was very nervous before because of what she had heard from people who read too much on the internet.
While, I don’t have a vagina, I can empathize with the anticipation almost the same. Having had several guiche piercings, I know what it’s like to be sitting in the stirrups and feeling a little vulnerable with my legs spread open. Of course, I’ll never know what it’s exactly like to be a girl in that position.
I’ve heard people say that people only like doing genital piercings because they like looking at naughty bits. I think this is preposterous. Although I’m sure there are some who aren’t very professional. But, to a good piercer, that’s really the last thing on their mind. I think it has a lot to do with context. In that setting, it’s difficult for me to think about anything other than, where are the vessels, how is the anatomy going to support this piercing, where do the hills and valleys lay, how do I make this centered and straight. I’m too preoccupied with all of that and trying to keep the person calm to think about anything else. But, I can’t speak for the professionalism of other piercers.
Overall, I want to give the client something that will help their self image, self esteem, and (in all honesty) help their sex life. Let’s face it, we get genital piercings for fun! We shouldn’t act as though it’s for any other reason. It’s our dirty little secret. But, the proceedure shouldn’t feel that way.
I like how it sounds like I always have a pocket full of change.